How to Impact Others: Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back
I have had a hell of a turnaround from five years of struggling, always spending more than I was making as an entrepreneur, to eventually being able to earn millions of dollars, travel around the world, have real lifestyle freedom.
It definitely hasn’t always been this way.
I can’t tell you how incredibly frustrating it was the first five years, feeling like I was banging my head against a wall over, and over, and over, and wondering what was wrong with me. because I was watching other people pass me up and I was still where I was.
I had loads of self-doubt and was always beating myself up.
Can you relate to this?
I didn’t have the confidence to make the calls, to do the things that I knew I needed to do. I would sit on social media and bury myself in a bottle of vodka because it was easier to drink and numb out than it was to actually do the thing that I was afraid of.
We distract ourselves.
Thank goodness for loads of personal development because eventually, I was able to start doing the things that I was afraid of.
It Wasn’t an Overnight Process
Everyone always asks me, “What was the one thing?”
I wish I could tell you there was one thing but it was all of the things.
It was learning as much as I could learn.
I was actually on the phone with a young guy earlier and it was inspiring to hear his story.
He hasn’t made any money in the marketing world but has gone through almost every training known to man, spending hours and hours and hours every day, soaking it in, getting the knowledge so that eventually, he can have the success and that’s how I was.
I was just seeking out the information. I’d read a book about every two or three days. I knew if I needed to change my circumstances, I had to change me first.
The contrast is incredible.
Making money is great, time freedom is great, but the biggest blessing is being proud of the person you’ve become, being comfortable in your own skin, looking in the mirror and loving the person who looks back at you, being able to go into a room and feel like you can own the room or walk on stage and own the stage.
It’s that feeling of power.
I’m not talking about power as far as controlling another person, I’m talking about personal power.
Why People Fail
Over the last 24 years, having built teams that have grown to over a million customers, over $50M earners on the team, there is one thing that the million dollar earners have done that the people who fail do not.
What do they have? Is it more charisma? No.
Is it a greater sales ability? No.
Are they better with people? No.
Do they come from a better family? No.
Are they more educated? No.
The people who have made it simply have the fucking courage to do the thing that they’re afraid of.
The people who fail and I’ve seen thousands fail, the thing that they’re unwilling to do is the thing that they’re afraid of and that’s why they don’t win.
What happens when you don’t do the thing that you’re afraid of?
Obviously, you fail, but more important importantly, more significant than that, there’s a little part of you that dies inside every time.
Every day that goes by that you’re not doing the thing that you know you need to do because you’re paralyzed by fear, a little part of you dies.
You become a little less confident every day when you don’t do the thing that you know you need to do.
Enough is Enough
Maybe you’re like me. Every day that would go by, I’d beat myself up a little bit more. I had to decide enough is enough.
My question to you is when is enough going to be enough?
I would say I’m very aggressive driven. I want to win. If you challenge me, I want to rise to the challenge.
Some people are more cause-driven and cause-oriented.
It was watching other people pass me by that got me driven.
If I look at the thousands that have not succeeded compared to the ones who have, the ones who have not succeeded, many of them were way more talented than those who won.
If you were to look at them and compare character traits and background, credibility, all of that, you would say the person who failed should have been the one that won, but why didn’t they win?
They refused to do the thing that they were afraid of.
Get Leverage on Yourself
You’ve got to figure out how to get leverage on yourself.
One of the things that allowed me to get leverage on myself was getting pissed off enough, seeing so many other people pass me up that didn’t have anything more going for them than I had going for me.
It was an internal competition.
You need to decide when you are going to step up.
If you’re not driven like that, by competition, maybe you’re driven by helping other people.
If that’s the case, let me ask you this.
How many people’s lives are the exact same today because you refused to step up and do the thing that you know you need to do?
In network marketing, when we go out and we do the things that we know we need to do, the things that we’re afraid of, we’re able to impact lives in a positive way.
I’ve had 5,550 on my team achieve a rank that is an average of a couple of thousand dollars a month.
That’s a lot of people earning a pretty significant income.
If I didn’t decide to do the thing that I was afraid of, that would be over 5,000 people whose lives were not impacted in a positive way.
I don’t know if you understand the impact that you can truly have from you telling a person who tells a person, who tells a person, who tells the person, that duplication effect, that exponential growth that can kick in, you, yes, you have the ability to impact thousands and thousands of lives.
Fear is Keeping You From Making an Impact in Peoples Lives
By you staying in helplessness, holding onto your fears, refusing to step out of your comfort zone, allowing your fears to be more important than other people’s lives, guess what?
You make no impact.
At the end of your life, you’ll be buried. You’ll have a gravestone and you’ll be soon forgotten.
I remember going back to my sixth great grandfather’s grave who was my oldest known ancestor.
I don’t know what I was wanting to get out of going to see the grave.
As I’m sitting there looking at Thomas Bannister Morris, I thought, this is my oldest known ancestor and no one ever mentioned his name. Ever.
I had to find him through ancestry.com.
No one ever said his name. Why? He lived, he died, and he was soon forgotten. Most people will live, they’ll die, and they’ll, too, be soon forgotten.
I’ve got a calling to be immortal, to leave a legacy, to leave an impact that outlives me.
I had to step out of my comfort zone and do the things that I was afraid of to make this possible.
I had to call other people to step out of their comfort zone just like I’m calling you out now to step out of yours
I’m not doing this so that you can go get rich but for you to make an impact so that you can leave a legacy.
Life is Too Short Not to Make an Impact and Overcome Your Fears
Life is amazingly short.
The earth has been here for tens of millions of years and you’re going to be here for 80, 90, 100 years if you’re lucky.
Life is a blip. It’s a blink. Don’t let your life be all that there is.
You can live and your legacy can live on if you’re willing to do the thing that you’re afraid to do.
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