Let’s face it…
Some people are so negative you could give them a million dollars and they’d complain the bag was too heavy.
It reminds me of a story I heard one time…
I went duck hunting with a really negative guy on my team named Dale.
I brought my dog and every time we’d shoot a duck, my dog would run on top of the water to go retrieve the duck. This happened several times and I kept looking over at Dale thinking he’d be super impressed to see a dog that can run on water. But he never said anything.
It was bothering me that he seemed so unimpressed so when we were driving back home, I prodded him a bit and said, “Whaddaya think of my dog?”
“Man, your dog can’t even swim!” 🙂
Now obviously that’s just a funny made up story, but if you think hard enough I’m sure you can think of someone like Dale.
When you have someone in your life who’s super negative, specifically toward you and your dreams, goals, and ambitions, you have one of two choices. (Well, you probably have 100 but today I’ll talk about two.)
You can be non-confrontational and just ignore them and let them continue to put you down, plant negative seeds in your mind.
But listen, as much as you say to yourself it doesn’t bother you, it does.
Take a note from Gandhi who said “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”
Two Choices How to Handle Negative People
OPTION 1: If you remain non-confrontational and allow someone to disrespect you, you deserve to be disrespected.
We teach people how to treat us. Allowing disrespect teaches the negative person that you’re someone who can be easily disrespected.
That’s option one. Choose that and be prepared to just accept a life of mediocrity.
OPTION 2: Have some self-respect. If someone can’t respect you and your dreams, they certainly don’t deserve to have an ambitious, goal-driven, leader in their life.
So, change your friends… or change your friends.
I had a friend who used to laugh at me and my big dreams. He’s always asking things like “Made your millions yet?” and “You’re on top of the pyramid yet?”
I allowed it for quite a while because I loved my friend. But I finally had enough and told him one day very firmly, “don’t ever laugh at me or put me down like that.”
You know what happened?
Because I respected myself and set a boundary, he never belittled me again and we maintained an amazing friendship.
Had he continued, I would have cut him out of my life. At least until he decided to be respectful.
That may sound harsh to just cut people out, but the way I see it, if someone is negative or disrespectful towards me, they aren’t a real friend anyway.
Hang around people who celebrate you, not who simply tolerate you.
You may have a family member or someone you love tremendously who’s negative toward you… just realize, if you respect yourself, they are much more likely to respect you.
If you allow disrespect, they are much more likely to disrespect you.
There’s a reason why I don’t spend time with anyone who disrespects me.
I don’t allow it.
And you shouldn’t either.
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